Symbolic Whispers – learning to develop your psychic ability

Meditation on the beach and psychic development

Many people ask me, were you born psychic or did you have to learn? I think the answer is a mixture of the two.

Having seen the ghost of my granddad very early on in life (see blog post) I feel I was born with some kind of – I hesitate to say gift – natural ability. But just like any other skill, you have to learn your trade.

If you wanted to become a professional tennis player you would find yourself a tennis coach and practice as much as possible, and it’s the same if you want to become a medium, you will need to attend workshops and put in lots of practice. For most of us mediumship is a test of discipline and determination, you must stay committed to your goal no matter how many times you fail. And you will fail!

It can take years to finally call yourself a medium, once you’ve learnt to trust in the spirit world and have confidence in the information you’re given. The difficulty is receiving the information in the first place, whether you see, hear or sense, knowing what you are picking up is half of the battle.

I explain to new clients that doing a reading can be like speaking on the telephone with a very poor signal, with sections of the conversation dropping in and out it can require a lot of patience to make out what the other person is saying. Unfortunately we do not have a direct dial to the spirit world, as much as we would like one! Instead we learn to communicate with symbols through a connection in our mind. You may have heard people talking about opening up the third eye, something we learn to perfect through meditation.

The journey begins by joining a psychic development group, often at your local spiritualist church. Here we learn things like opening and closing down our chakras, the difference between psychic readings and mediumship. We learn to do readings in many different ways such as using guidance cards, pictures, even crystals as a tool, working in pairs or small groups for all sorts of creative activities.

Initially you probably won’t pick up anything, many of us spend weeks, months or even years feeling frustrated with our lack of progress, but in the end it comes. Sometimes you have a massive break-through; sometimes it’s a gradual build-up. Fragmented pieces of information become structured descriptions of friends and relatives, starting with a sense of a male or female then moving on to how this person looks or feels to you. What kind of personality they had, how old they were when they passed. Of course we can’t always provide exact names and ages, but we do our best to pass on what we are shown.

And that is part of the problem, we aren’t always given specific information that the recipient wishes to receive. Our spirit relatives have no concept of time, and often they just don’t want to focus on how they passed; it’s more important for them to portray happiness not sadness. They usually come through with what we call a memory link: something that no one else would know, a memory that confirms it’s really them. The information never makes sense to me, but when I say it out loud it could be the one thing the person in front of me needed to hear.

I’ve had some amazing memory links during my time as a medium, both in training, during a reading with a client and at demonstrations of mediumship. One thing that really sticks out in my mind was when an old school friend contacted me after the loss of her father, seeking advice on whether to attend an evening of clairvoyance. As we were chatting online I started to get a sense of her father being around, I had met him a few times many years ago but didn’t know anything about him. I’m not usually tuned in until I sit down to do a reading, but intense emotional loss can often trigger a connection.

I remember leaving the computer briefly and as I left the room I had the image of a garden rake in my head – very random as you can imagine. At first this didn’t make any sense to me, like most symbols don’t, but then I understood the image represented someone attempting to clear up leaves, as if they were trying but not having much luck. There was humour attached to this picture, but I didn’t understand what it meant. I realised that I needed to relay it to my friend in case she could make sense of it, though it always makes me a little nervous to come out with something so unexpected. Thankfully when I explained what I had received it made perfect sense to her and it was definitely intended to uplift the family with laughter.

I truly believe that mediumship is a gift, one that we all have but choose to develop. I have shared some beautiful moments and received some fantastic evidence from spirit, on both sides of the table. It can bring huge comfort to those suffering loss, making the process of grief that little bit easier. As a medium we never stop growing, we learn from each other and we learn from spirit and if we ever get over confident they are sure to put us back in our place! It all starts with a sixth sense, a curiosity for the unknown and a strong desire to help others.

A Journey with Sound: James’ Story

Man relaxing in a park

About six months ago I was feeling very sluggish in life, lacking the energy I used to have. As well as this I was getting stressed and usually over the smallest of things that really didn’t matter. But what was causing me the most frustration was that I had a lot of things I wanted to get on and do but didn’t know where to start.

I’ve meditated in the past but it tended to be when I was in a state of relaxation anyway and found it very difficult to do when stressed. I had also tried spiritual healing which was fantastic but this time there wasn’t one particular issue that was the obvious cause, rather just a lot of little things so I didn’t see the point of trying to be ‘healed’ if I didn’t have something that needed healing.

When Kalie told me about her Sound Healing I wasn’t really sure what it could do for me but it sounded interesting and something different so I wanted to give it a try.

Before the first session started I had to write down what I wanted to get from it and all I could think of was to relax mainly and re-energise if possible. As she started banging the drums I lay there continuing to think and trying to get my brain to stop. Eventually the sound from the drums drowned out my thoughts, and with it I started to relax and feel the vibrations rather than just hear the sound. The vibrations started to get stronger and felt like a soft tingling throughout my body almost like a gentle massage.

I left the first session feeling more relaxed than I had done in a long time and actually realised how long it had been since I felt relaxed and calm. The drums had helped to quieten my mind and for the next week I was able to start listening to meditation music and continue to relax, something that I hadn’t done in quite a while.

Through the next five sessions Kalie used different types of instruments for healing, all of which helped me to relax and with that feel more and more energised, culminating in the final session being a mix of all different instruments.

For me the drums were my preferred sound as they were able to quieten my mind, which was the biggest issue I had in order to relax, plus the vibrations from them both during and after resonated throughout my body increasing the feeling of relaxation like a gentle massage.

Afterwards, in my relaxed state, I was able to see the cause of my stress and sluggishness was because of so many little things that on their own really didn’t have a detrimental effect but combining them together had left me stressed and low on energy plus feeling overwhelmed by it all. I was trying to tackle them all at the same time whilst having little energy and ended up unable to do anything.

So thank you Kalie for this wonderful experience, of not just helping me to relax and re-energise but also to see that if I don’t resolve and clear out little issues when they arise then eventually they can build up to be something big that is not only draining and stressful but also overwhelming as I’m not sure what the cause is (as there’s many), and so can’t clearly see how to resolve it or where to start.





From Coco Pops to Cacao – turning veggie

Avocado in a bowl

I used to eat coco pops for breakfast. That still amazes me.

I’ve made a lot of changes to my diet in the last three years, which has inspired a whole new outlook on what I put into my body. It’s interesting to look at the old you, although sometimes, I barely recognise myself.

It all started with a trip to Cape Town in December 2013. I set off with the notion that it would be a life-changing experience; I hadn’t travelled to somewhere so exotic since I was a child. I didn’t know how or why but I’d heard that it was a spiritual place. I think I envisioned myself revelling in the stunning scenery, bonding with nature, enjoying safari trips and making peace with life itself. Unfortunately this was not how my time was due to be spent.

We didn’t go on safari, and I can’t say I remember much in the way of pure relaxation, but I do remember it being a beautiful place. There’s something about Cape Town that made me feel instantly at home, namely the creative expression at local markets where I found myself building a collection of unusual instruments. Of course the universe always had a greater plan for these.

We made the most of the sunshine and swimming pool on arrival, naturally my hula-hoop also made an appearance. But it wasn’t long until I started to feel exhausted, and that was just from going out to breakfast. We would then head back to the house to get changed and venture out again for tea and coffee mid morning, which completely wore me out. It was at this point that I realised, I simply couldn’t cope

I distinctly remember crawling up the stairs and falling onto the bed crying. I had absolutely no energy and it was really getting to me. We had arrived right at the peak of summer so the heat was having a big impact on me, but I used to live in Spain so this shouldn’t have been such a problem.

As my energy levels continued to decrease, and the trip became harder and harder, we decided to seek some help. We searched for the local health shop where I was introduced to Bio-Energetic Stress Testing (BEST). BEST measures electrical conductivity through pressure on acupuncture points on the hands and feet. It tests for vitamin and mineral deficiencies, hormonal imbalances, food and environmental sensitivities. It also tests all the major organs and glands for an overall picture of health, just what I needed at the time.

I yawned my way through the two and a half hour session and was given some startling results. Apparently I had a parasite attacking my liver, I was allergic to sugar (internally) and still suffering the effects of candida from food poisoning. Less shockingly I was intolerant to wheat, gluten and a few other things. I was put on a strict anti- candida diet, ordered to eliminate sugar from my diet and prescribed a course of herbal tablets, all a little overwhelming for someone who was already on the verge of tears.

I panicked. How on earth was I going to give up sugar? I knew it was something I needed to work on, due to becoming rapidly addicted. I had been fighting tiredness with chocolate bars for some time. It helped to overcome the energy dips during office hours, at least temporarily. It was a lot to take in but, nevertheless, it was the first step.

It’s not the kind of news you want to hear whilst on holiday. Particularly when you have to watch everyone else drinking milkshakes and hot chocolates (my favourite holiday treats) the following day. Somehow I stopped ordering treats, and drank mostly alcohol free drinks.

I decided to seek further advice from a couple that ran a local spa. Both vegan and experienced practitioners, I thought perhaps they could shed some light on the diagnosis. During a very long consultation they opened my eyes to a whole new way of being. They heavily encouraged switching to a vegan diet, consuming only organic food and drink, revealed surprising truths about following a traditional balanced diet, and suggested further reading that backed up their belief system.

Once again I left feeling rather overwhelmed, possibly even brainwashed by ‘vegans’, but something inside me clicked and there was a realisation that what they were saying made sense. I decided the best way forward was to take everything on board and decipher the parts that resonated with me. I continued to eat meat during the trip – as stated on the anti candida diet – but did my best to dramatically reduce the sugar intake, and introduce new healthier food options. Flashback to my first shredded carrot and avocado on rice crackers for breakfast, when I thought my life was officially over. And so the journey began.

It wasn’t until I returned to the UK that I made the drastic switch. I was so frustrated with tiredness and depression I just had to get better. I did some more research and started seeking inspiration from Instagram. I completely identified with ‘Deliciously Ella’s story’, of course it made sense to heal yourself through diet, it’s no secret that what you put in is what you get out. Your body is a temple, so I’ve heard.

I can’t remember exactly how it happened, perhaps it was a new year’s resolution, but all at once I gave up wheat, gluten, meat, dairy and sugar. And I actually did it. Once you stop eating sugar you stop craving it, eventually. I can’t quite say the same for the smell of bacon. I did miss meat, but without it you become so adventurous. I started to really enjoy cooking, the creativity and spontaneity of it. I may have also become a little obsessed with taking photos of finished plates – some things will never change. My family didn’t get it, but that’s ok because we all evolve at a different rate.

I succeeded for six months without any slip-ups, and then through no fault of my own, there was an incident with half a chicken kebab and some Haribos. Since that day I’ve not quite managed to be as strict with my diet. Wheat and dairy have made appearances, alongside the occasional stress-induced chocolate splurge. But I have mostly stuck to the routine.

It can be hard to find free-from options when eating out in restaurants and attending parties but you can only do your best. I’ve found that from strictly cutting out so many things, my body is more able to deal with the smaller amounts of ‘bad foods’ now. When you overload on these your body will always suffer, but it can handle the odd supermarket sandwich or sprinkle of cheese on pasta. The key in getting started is to read labels; anything with numerous ingredients should be avoided. Just keep it simple.

Add plenty of super foods and smoothies to your diet. Green juice works wonders for mental and physical energy, but be careful not to replace food with juice. I often have a juice or smoothie in the morning before going out for a walk, then eat breakfast when I get back home.

We must remember to be patient with ourselves and stop comparing to our role models on social media. I’m sure they have slip-ups too, but we only present the best version of ourselves to the external world. Balance the good with the bad. Tomorrow is always a new day.

As I start the New Year phasing out festive foods, I remain committed to this new way of being. As someone who has identified to being somewhere between vegetarian and vegan for three years – I still eat eggs, tuna and honey for now to cope with the Fibromyalgia – I believe it was the best decision I’ve ever made, I only wish I’d done it sooner. Overall my body feels healthier and less bloated, and my mind feels so much more motivated without the constant influence of junk food.

It can be daunting at the start of the journey when researching diets and others’ beliefs, but remember to listen to your body and do what feels right for you. Some people like to give up everything at once, others prefer cutting out one thing at a time. Setting smaller targets may be more sustainable in the long run.

You wouldn’t believe that I used to be infatuated, borderline obsessed with chicken (ask any of my old school friends). But we all make changes in our own time. The first step is recognising that something needs to change, from here on the world is your oyster.

I now understand the reasons behind adopting a meat-free diet. Vegans are not new age hippies trying to brainwash you, nor are they just about saving the animals, eating a plant-based diet is essential for looking after your own health, eliminating illness and feeling the optimum of yourself.  But even more so, it’s important to conquer the ongoing battle with sugar cravings, that little devil on your shoulder forcing you to eat chocolate to get through each day.

So if you’re currently wondering why you signed up to Veganuary, my advice to you is stick at it for a bit longer. With so many meat-free substitutes around, there really is nothing left to miss. And with over half a million people now following a vegan diet in Britain, times really are changing. What have you got to lose?

Brand new relaxation sessions

Meditation and Sound Healing sessions in London

I am very excited to announce my brand new weekly relaxation sessions in Greenwich.

Most of us lead busy lives, rushing from place to place, so the aim of the sessions is to promote the importance of relaxation and demonstrate how good it feels just to take an hour for yourself.

Meditation and Sound Therapy are powerful and transformational tools that we can factor into our daily lives to cope with stress and anxiety. Many people have experienced improved sleep, reduced pain, greater self confidence and overall happiness from incorporating mindful meditation and sound healing treatments into their lives.

If you’ve been thinking about trying meditation in London or attending a sound bath, this could be the ideal opportunity. Don’t miss two free introductory tasters on the 19th and 20th of October! Places are limited so email to reserve yours. Donations welcome to cover running costs.

Meditation & Self Healing: Through the Power of Sound will take place on Wednesday mornings from 10-11am and Thursday evenings 7-8pm at the Deborah Ubee Trust, SE10 8JS. Yoga mats and some blankets provided, feel free to bring an extra comfy pillow/ blanket.

A Journey with Sound: My Story

Empty beach with dog and rainbow

Just over a year ago I was researching sound healing practitioners for a Meetup event, now I’m making preparations to commence my own sound baths…

I’m not sure how it started, but I suddenly felt an inner calling for sound. I’d love to say that I excelled at music during school but sadly, that wasn’t the case – aside from a passion for singing. Looking back, I remember my best friend (now a music teacher) had the most unusual collection of worldly instruments. Every time I went to her house I admired (and sometimes laughed) at the growing collection, I also took a genuine interest into their names and origins.

Further to this somehow I began accumulating my own set of instruments without even realising. My first was a large ‘rain stick’ with colourful carved detailing. I picked this up at a pop up event along the Thames around three years ago. It was stored behind a sofa in my flat for some time rather unloved and unused. Approximately one year on I found myself at a local craft market in Cape Town haggling for another beautifully carved, smaller rain stick. I also brought home a ‘thumb piano’ crafted from a coconut and a rather noisy rattling giraffe creation. To this day I’m not sure why I bought them, I was just so drawn to each one, and fascinated by the time and energy lovingly spent on each piece.

Now, everywhere I go instruments seem to follow. From singing bowls on an overnight trip to Cambridge, to a striking Vietnamese gong spotted in an antique shop in Norfolk. The universe seems to be sending me a clear message: sound healing is the way forward.

For my Sound Healing Diploma I went away to a quaint village in Somerset. It was a lovely place where I could completely let go of ‘London life’. It was important for me to go away to study, I had been going through a difficult time and this was a major step forward. It was the first trip I had taken alone in a long time. My sound healing course represented a new me, a more independent me. One that pushes herself to try new things, to travel to new places and to follow a path that truly leads to happiness.

I was fairly nervous about doing the course, due to being a slow learner. I only hoped that I would actually be able to play the instruments. Thankfully there was an instant bond and a level of intuitiveness with everything that I picked up. I loved them all, and couldn’t wait to attempt my first sound bath. I finished the sound bath with great feedback, a big smile and a sense of achievement. I actually did it.

My favourite memory from this trip was on the morning of the last day. I said goodbye to the meerkats at the nearby farm and went in search of the beach, appreciating all the little houses and their gardens with chickens along the way. I walked down the steps and stood alone on the desolate beach. It was in the depth of winter, so I stood there wrapped up in layers and snow boots, admiring a man and his dog. As I looked up to the sky, I was mesmerised by a beautiful rainbow, I couldn’t quite believe it. It felt like a pivotal moment in the new chapter of my life. I was immensely grateful and proud of myself for what I had achieved, all by myself. The rainbow told me that everything was going to be ok when I returned to London.

My teacher had so many instruments, I remember thinking how lucky she was. Any time she wanted she could just pop next door and play to her heart’s content. I on the other hand considered myself very lucky to be travelling home with some new additions to my collection, to help me get started on my case studies. Two singing bowls, a Tibetan bell and a Nepalise drum – I have no idea how I managed to carry it all home alongside my suitcase and bags!

Having just returned from a long drive to Reading to collect three crystal bowls, I feel extremely lucky to now be following an inner calling, turning dreams into reality. I have received some wonderful testimonials on this new journey, I cannot wait to really explore the benefits of sound healing treatments and to begin running my own Gong and Sound Baths.

If you are curious about Sound Therapy and would like to know how it could help you, keep a lookout for stories from Andrea, Naomi and James, my case studies, who each received four weekly treatments documenting some fantastic experiences with pain reduction, improved sleep, concentration and relaxation.


Let’s talk about depression


They call it the silent killer. They say it’s a process you must go through to come out of the other side. What puzzles me is that if so many of us are going through it, why is no one talking about it? I need to talk about it.

I’ve just emerged from the darkness, and hope never to return, but how can we control something that absolutely consumes us?

I of all people have the recipe for happiness, I teach people the tools, I understand how to live in the moment, how to just be. But sometimes life takes over, and we lose ourselves temporarily to a human experience, one that teaches us so much if we are prepared to take on board its lesson.

I have suffered with bouts of depression over the last few years, particularly in the last nine months, mainly due to health issues, periods of unemployment and other such life events. Periodically I lose my trust in the universe, but just as quickly it returns. I know that the good times are coming, I just need to be patient and wait. The universe loves making us wait.

Having discovered a spiritual pathway so early in life, I didn’t think it possible to ever feel so absent again. Once I learned the truth I knew that happiness existed in every moment, the secret was gratitude.

There was a time when I had much ‘less’ materially, in the way of: home, relationships, income, belongings. I distinctly remember having cold showers for at least two weeks, but giving thanks every morning just for clean water and the roof over my head, despite very difficult and basic living circumstances at the time.

What happened to that person? She was so connected, she worked with the universe, free from fear. She just was. Perhaps life got in the way.

I don’t even recognise the person I’ve been for the last couple of weeks. The only way to describe it, is like someone flipping a switch out of nowhere and turning off the power without notifying you. Suddenly feeling dead inside, you lose all passion, you are completely numb, even to the things that make you smile, regardless.

I’ve watched others go through it. I’ve stood by helplessly, relentlessly offering to help, why couldn’t they hear me? Now I understand. They were also numb – it was a process they needed to go through. At least they knew I was there, when they were ready to come back. Thankfully one of those people recently came back, just at my time of need.

The problem is, when we’re in the midst of darkness, we feel so alone, with no one to talk to. I’m learning that keeping things inside does you no good, if we do not work on our own self-healing it will only come back to haunt us. I have now acknowledged that I am so good at helping others, but not so good at helping myself – and that has to change.

I’ve learned that when you reach out you discover that we are more alike than we realise, and that friends do exist even if you haven’t spoken in some time. It’s important to be there for each other, we must be there for each other. Friendship is vital, like air and water, we must fight for it – even when we’ve lost our way, even when life becomes too ‘busy’.

We must also remember to take time for ourselves, time alone and time for silence. It’s such an important part of our personal development and the healing process. When you live with other people, particularly a long-term partner, it’s so easy to lose yourself, no matter how much you love that person.

I realise that I lost myself some time ago, I’m sure most people have experienced this. Rebuilding yourself is not an easy task, piece by piece, but the first stage is awareness, once we are aware we can start to make the necessary changes. I’m on a new journey of self-discovery now, pushing myself to try things that scare me. I don’t want to be scared anymore, I want to feel alive.

As I begin to remind myself of the way I used to be (before life took over), I reach for my gratitude list and I start writing a bucket list.

It’s time to take control of the fear and the sadness, the healing will come in time. Bear with it. Try to look at the positives rather than absorbing the negatives. There will always be positives. If you can’t find any, start with your loved ones, your animals, the roof over your head, food on the table. If you’re not happy in your job, change it. If you want to move abroad do it. If you don’t try you’ll never know, and wouldn’t you rather say you tried than spend a lifetime wondering?

Go for a walk in the park, watch a nice film, spend time with children or animals. Do something that makes you smile, push yourself to take that first step, and the next step won’t be so painful.

But never regret the darkness, it is our greatest teacher.

“There’s absolutely nothing wrong with hitting rock bottom, it’s a magical place to be. A place where we begin to connect with our true self, a place where we step outside of the ego, where we realise what we do and don’t want from life, the source of much creativity. A place where we align ourselves with purpose and gratitude. Through darkness comes light.” KJ x May 2016

The story of Oskar and Sammy

Oskar and Sammy animal communication

Imagine life without animals. You can’t, can you?

If you’ve ever had a pet you’ll understand just how important they can be. They become part of the family, part of the furniture even. At my parents’ house you’re hard pushed to get a spot on the sofa when Lord Louis is around. Even when they’re stealing your socks, chewing your new trainers or rolling in god knows what, they’re still absolutely adorable! But what happens when your beloved pet is no longer around?

Last year I was blessed to discover an Animal Communication Practitioner’s Course in Essex where I learnt how to communicate with animals. During the course we learnt how to connect with them in face to face and via distance, both on the earth plane and in the spirit world. Ever since the course I’ve been feeling increasingly drawn to animals, so it was a lovely surprise to find an email from a lady requesting some animal communication.

Vicky explained that sadly one of her dogs, Oskar, had been diagnosed with a tumour, and that she thought her other dog Sammy was feeling sad and picking up on Oskar’s illness. I requested that Vicky send me a photograph of each and that she didn’t give me any more information.

Before I sat down to attempt communication I received the news that Oskar had been put to sleep. At first I was disappointed that I hadn’t managed to speak with him whilst he was still with us, but I was soon reminded that the universe always has a greater plan.

I was a little nervous as I opened my laptop and signed in to Skype to speak to Vicky, it had been a while since I’d practiced my animal communication. I decided to set myself a challenge; I loaded up the two photographs, specifically without knowing which dog was which because I wanted to test my own skills and intuitively feel which one was no longer with us, and instantly I knew. Oskar was the beautiful Hungarian Vizsla on the left.

As soon as I saw him I felt a strong connection, as I did with Sammy. But Oskar was something else. He was beautiful, inside and out, a gentle loving soul – a bit dozy at times. I sensed that he was a very calm, chilled out boy although he would get overexcited, particularly at the sight of a squeaky toy. He loved a cuddle. This stunning pooch would melt your heart in a second, he certainly melted mine without even meeting him.

I picked up on a few of the sadder details such as where the tumour was located and how his behaviour changed as he became sicker. I even managed to describe a special memory that Vicky completely understood, which brought smiles to her and her daughter as they sat and listened to the reading. But the best part of this message was that Oskar was able to say thank you to Vicky for looking after him and reassure her that she did all she could, hence the reason we were destined to connect after his passing.

And let’s not forget pup number two. I instantly felt dear little Sammy’s sadness, it was radiating from his picture. I explained to Vicky that his behaviour had changed, that he wasn’t being himself lately. He had been taking himself away to quiet spots of contemplation around the house, which was unusual because he normally wanted to sit with you. He had also stopped wanting to go out for walks.

Sammy is usually a little on the cheeky side, full of life and play. I was being shown an image of a large field, he was running carefree and having fun. I advised Vicky that they needed to get out at the weekend, somewhere brand new, a change of scenery for the whole family. I reassured her that he would recover in time but he just needs lots of TLC at the moment.

The beauty of Animal Communication is that just like mediumship, we are still able to receive messages from our pampered pets. I personally think it is a shame that animals do not come through so often during readings, or just appear as a passing comment. But thankfully some of us are able to connect, and I feel very blessed to be able to do so.

Animal Communication is very useful for understanding behavioral problems, helping with the grieving process (yes animals also grieve) and for locating missing pets. Sessions can take place at the animal’s home or via distance although it is often much easier, believe it or not, to connect with a photograph. I highly recommend giving it a go if you have any concerns, whether you have a dog, cat, rabbit or horse, we are all one, part of the same universal need for love and communication.

I’ll leave you with some words from Vicky:

I was delighted to have Kalie communicate for me Oskar (recently departed from us) and Sammy’s experiences and wishes. It was really insightful and confirmed my hunches about Oskar and Sammy’s experiences and how I could fine-tune and provide Sammy with what he needs and desires.

The reading was very clear and made total sense to me, and Kalie furthermore gave me tips and advice about how I could improve Sammy’s life and communicate with Oskar. It was a pleasure to hear Kalie’s descriptions and left me enlightened and helped me through this difficult time of coming to terms with Oskar’s passing.

Kalie was lovely throughout the reading and there were no time constraints felt. I recommend it to anyone who wants to better understand and relate with his or her beloved pet”.

A beautiful surprise…

Lee with the children in India

You never really know what you’re going to find when you open your inbox. Among the surveys, spam and one-liners from dad, it’s always nice to hear from a client out of the blue.

I don’t remember everything I say during a reading, so it’s particularly nice when someone comes back and confirms that what you told them has since come true. I do remember sensing an extremely positive future for Lee when I did his reading, so it’s no surprise that he is doing so well.

Thank you for getting in touch.

Hi Kalie how are you? I hope you’re getting on ok and all is going well for you. Just wanted you to know your reading for Lee last was very accurate especially with the travelling.

He went to India beginning of January for three months volunteering, and when he comes back he has two weeks here then he starts a new job starting in Shrewsbury then could be placed in Cornwall or Norfolk. So everything is on the up for Lee very Proud of him. Just thought you would like to hear that I have enclosed a couple pictures if that’s ok. Thanks xx

How to lose a loved one


I wish I could give you a simple answer. But, what I can give you is reassurance that life goes on…

Just because you can’t see them, it doesn’t mean that they aren’t around. When you pass, your spirit leaves your body; so it has to go somewhere? Some people like to call it heaven, but I don’t like to associate with religion. Let’s call it moving to another dimension. I like to think that when we get there we’re shown all the lessons we should have learnt in life, and everything we didn’t understand about life begins to make sense.

So how should you deal with losing a loved one?


Losing someone special is one of the hardest challenges we face. We’ve all been through it and will continue to go through it, there’s no escaping death.

We all experience grief in different ways, some worse than others. Even mediums and spiritual people suffer from it, myself included. I remember the day that Tina died, it was the worst day of my life. I’ve never experienced anything like it. The shock of someone dying so suddenly can have strange effects on the body. I had the worst migraine I’ve ever had and no amount of pain killers would take it away. I felt so sick I was heaving in the street.  And of course I cried, from the moment I got the call.

Two years down the line I still miss her on a daily basis, and cry from time to time. The one thing I would say about grief is simply to feel it. If you weren’t supposed to be feeling a certain emotion then you wouldn’t be experiencing it. Loss can also teach you vast amounts about life, it taught me to be grateful for everyone and everything and never take anyone for granted, characterised by the tattoo on my arm.

I think it’s true when people say there are different stages of grief. I’m not sure that you ever really get over losing a loved one but it certainly gets easier over time, especially when you maintain a connection.

Establishing a connection

People tend to wonder why their loved one doesn’t give them a sign that they’re around but, the reality is that as human beings, we’re often far too caught up in our busy lives to notice them. Have you actually tried asking for a sign? It works both ways you know! Just like anything you need to work together to establish a connection. Talk to them in your head – no matter how silly that may sound – ask them to move something or switch the TV on perhaps, just try not to be too alarmed if / when they actually do! But don’t be disheartened if nothing happens, it can take a while, spirits do not measure time as we measure it.

If you’re not quite convinced, let me tell you a couple of stories…

The Organ

My mum had a reading with a Medium a couple of years ago, during the reading she was told that her dad was learning to play the organ in the spirit world – he had always loved organ music. She was also told that he would soon demonstrate his new skill via the television or radio.

One day my mum was driving down the mountain alone. She switched the radio on to one of the usual commercial stations expecting to hear chart songs, but it was playing a piece of organ music. The music went on for a few minutes, there was a brief silent pause then a voice that said ‘that was me playing the organ’. The station then returned to normal.

Moving Objects

As I said previously, when Tina died I went to pieces. I didn’t feel like doing anything, particularly socialising. One day my friend Amanda tried to cheer me up with a trial gym membership, which sounded like a good idea.

We were on the treadmill talking about Tina, I had two mobile phones perched securely in front of me near my feet. All of a sudden one of them slid down fast onto the treadmill. It was strange, but I smiled and thought to myself, Tina’s here. In my head I said to her ‘if that was you please move my other phone’. We carried on talking and walking then suddenly the most unexplainable thing happened, my other phone shot across the room so fast we didn’t even see it move, and it landed on the floor behind me. I knew I couldn’t have imagined it but I had to check that Amanda saw it too. It was amazing; there was simply no other explanation for it.

And that’s not the only thing Tina moved, around the same time I also began to notice that whenever I entered my bedroom, one of my incense sticks would be on the floor, which would always make me smile.

Some people may have noticed that I’ve been missing her a lot lately, and it seems she has too! Just last week I came in my bedroom to find my speaker sticking out in the middle of the room. I half dismissed it at first thinking I may somehow have moved it, but when it happened for the second time I knew exactly how it had got there. Once again I said in my head ‘if that was you Tina, please move the speaker again’. She didn’t do it straight away but sure enough the speaker moved again.

Have a reading

It’s not for everyone, but most people that have had a reading with a medium come out feeling comforted to know that their loved one is well and happy. Being able to connect with a friend or relative can be so special, especially when they tell you something that only you would have known. As long as you don’t become reliant on a medium I would suggest giving it a try, especially if you’re finding it hard to cope with the loss of a loved one.

Just because they have left the earth plane, it doesn’t mean you must forget about them and move on. It may not be possible to bring them back but it’s certainly possible to seek comfort in knowing that they are still around…

A natural high


When you think of getting high you tend to imagine a group of curious teenagers smoking joints in the park. I prefer the more natural approach.

At the risk of sounding like a complete fruit loop, which of course I can be at times, there is a way to achieve the same kind of high, all from connecting with the universe and understanding your true purpose.

The earth is currently going through a transitional period therefore we are all experiencing vast changes around us, some positive and some negative. Many people have been going through a hard time recently, including myself, but trust me everything will get better, I promise.

I’m not going to lie and pretend that I’m happy go lucky every minute of every day, but I do my best to stay positive as much as possible and keep spreading those waves of sunshine. After all, it feels so much better to be positive than negative, doesn’t it?

So what is a natural high? It’s the most amazing feeling you’ve ever encountered. It comes from a feeling of complete acceptance and gratitude, trusting and knowing that everything is just how it is meant to be, in this moment.

So how does one achieve this state of ecstasy? Excuse the pun. For me this feeling is usually triggered when I connect to spirit. Giving a message from a loved one that has passed truly is one of the most satisfying feelings you can experience, and I am blessed to be able to do so. I often attend my psychic development group feeling completely exhausted after a long day at work, not to mention the hour and a half journey home. But the minute someone says ‘yes, I can take that, I understood everything you just said’ I feel absolutely invigorated, on top of the world in fact.

So how do we regular folk achieve this natural high? I understand that the stresses of life make it hard to be positive and happy all the time, and if you’re still reading this then well done, you might just be ready to open your mind.

It all comes down to finding that inner peace and connecting with your higher self. Believe it or not, that nagging voice inside your head is not actually you. You are the silence behind the voice.

There are plenty of ways you can begin to enjoy pure happiness: I’ve outlined a few of these below to get you going.

Meditation – Forget all preconceived ideas you have of cross-legged hippies, mediation can be done however you feel comfortable. Sit up, lie down, meditate alone or in a group. Meditation is simply about finding that inner stillness. Close your eyes, relax and take slow deep breaths in and out. Be aware of your thoughts and let them go.

Gratitude – This is the very word I have tattooed on my arm. We spend so much time thinking about what we don’t have, try focussing on what you do have. Write a list of things you are grateful for, once you start you’ll be surprised about how much you have to be grateful for. I try to do this as often as possible.

Bond with nature – I’m not suggesting that you go hug a tree (not even I do that), but spending time in the great outdoors can do wonders for your state of mind. Find a quiet spot in the park or take a drive in the countryside, appreciate the beautiful sights that are all around us. And of course, If you do feel the urge to hug a tree, then be my guest.

Many clients that come to me are seeking more than just a reading, they’re looking for happiness. I am very pleased to be able to offer advice about life and to help them find that tiny bit of strength within. It’s very pleasing to see someone leave a reading feeling positive and uplifted during a very difficult period in their life.

If we each aim to inspire just one person, and that person inspires another, imagine the effect we can create.

Do whatever you can to feel connected to the universe, and once you find that natural high, never let it go…