Category: Happiness

A Journey with Sound: James’ Story

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About six months ago I was feeling very sluggish in life, lacking the energy I used to have. As well as this I was getting stressed and usually over the smallest of things that really didn’t matter. But what was causing me the most frustration was that I had a lot of things I wanted to get on and do but didn’t know where to start.

I’ve meditated in the past but it tended to be when I was in a state of relaxation anyway and found it very difficult to do when stressed. I had also tried spiritual healing which was fantastic but this time there wasn’t one particular issue that was the obvious cause, rather just a lot of little things so I didn’t see the point of trying to be ‘healed’ if I didn’t have something that needed healing.

When Kalie told me about her Sound Healing I wasn’t really sure what it could do for me but it sounded interesting and something different so I wanted to give it a try.

Before the first session started I had to write down what I wanted to get from it and all I could think of was to relax mainly and re-energise if possible. As she started banging the drums I lay there continuing to think and trying to get my brain to stop. Eventually the sound from the drums drowned out my thoughts, and with it I started to relax and feel the vibrations rather than just hear the sound. The vibrations started to get stronger and felt like a soft tingling throughout my body almost like a gentle massage.

I left the first session feeling more relaxed than I had done in a long time and actually realised how long it had been since I felt relaxed and calm. The drums had helped to quieten my mind and for the next week I was able to start listening to meditation music and continue to relax, something that I hadn’t done in quite a while.

Through the next five sessions Kalie used different types of instruments for healing, all of which helped me to relax and with that feel more and more energised, culminating in the final session being a mix of all different instruments.

For me the drums were my preferred sound as they were able to quieten my mind, which was the biggest issue I had in order to relax, plus the vibrations from them both during and after resonated throughout my body increasing the feeling of relaxation like a gentle massage.

Afterwards, in my relaxed state, I was able to see the cause of my stress and sluggishness was because of so many little things that on their own really didn’t have a detrimental effect but combining them together had left me stressed and low on energy plus feeling overwhelmed by it all. I was trying to tackle them all at the same time whilst having little energy and ended up unable to do anything.

So thank you Kalie for this wonderful experience, of not just helping me to relax and re-energise but also to see that if I don’t resolve and clear out little issues when they arise then eventually they can build up to be something big that is not only draining and stressful but also overwhelming as I’m not sure what the cause is (as there’s many), and so can’t clearly see how to resolve it or where to start.

James

 

 

 

Let’s talk about depression

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They call it the silent killer. They say it’s a process you must go through to come out of the other side. What puzzles me is that if so many of us are going through it, why is no one talking about it? I need to talk about it.

I’ve just emerged from the darkness, and hope never to return, but how can we control something that absolutely consumes us?

I of all people have the recipe for happiness, I teach people the tools, I understand how to live in the moment, how to just be. But sometimes life takes over, and we lose ourselves temporarily to a human experience, one that teaches us so much if we are prepared to take on board its lesson.

I have suffered with bouts of depression over the last few years, particularly in the last nine months, mainly due to health issues, periods of unemployment and other such life events. Periodically I lose my trust in the universe, but just as quickly it returns. I know that the good times are coming, I just need to be patient and wait. The universe loves making us wait.

Having discovered a spiritual pathway so early in life, I didn’t think it possible to ever feel so absent again. Once I learned the truth I knew that happiness existed in every moment, the secret was gratitude.

There was a time when I had much ‘less’ materially, in the way of: home, relationships, income, belongings. I distinctly remember having cold showers for at least two weeks, but giving thanks every morning just for clean water and the roof over my head, despite very difficult and basic living circumstances at the time.

What happened to that person? She was so connected, she worked with the universe, free from fear. She just was. Perhaps life got in the way.

I don’t even recognise the person I’ve been for the last couple of weeks. The only way to describe it, is like someone flipping a switch out of nowhere and turning off the power without notifying you. Suddenly feeling dead inside, you lose all passion, you are completely numb, even to the things that make you smile, regardless.

I’ve watched others go through it. I’ve stood by helplessly, relentlessly offering to help, why couldn’t they hear me? Now I understand. They were also numb – it was a process they needed to go through. At least they knew I was there, when they were ready to come back. Thankfully one of those people recently came back, just at my time of need.

The problem is, when we’re in the midst of darkness, we feel so alone, with no one to talk to. I’m learning that keeping things inside does you no good, if we do not work on our own self-healing it will only come back to haunt us. I have now acknowledged that I am so good at helping others, but not so good at helping myself – and that has to change.

I’ve learned that when you reach out you discover that we are more alike than we realise, and that friends do exist even if you haven’t spoken in some time. It’s important to be there for each other, we must be there for each other. Friendship is vital, like air and water, we must fight for it – even when we’ve lost our way, even when life becomes too ‘busy’.

We must also remember to take time for ourselves, time alone and time for silence. It’s such an important part of our personal development and the healing process. When you live with other people, particularly a long-term partner, it’s so easy to lose yourself, no matter how much you love that person.

I realise that I lost myself some time ago, I’m sure most people have experienced this. Rebuilding yourself is not an easy task, piece by piece, but the first stage is awareness, once we are aware we can start to make the necessary changes. I’m on a new journey of self-discovery now, pushing myself to try things that scare me. I don’t want to be scared anymore, I want to feel alive.

As I begin to remind myself of the way I used to be (before life took over), I reach for my gratitude list and I start writing a bucket list.

It’s time to take control of the fear and the sadness, the healing will come in time. Bear with it. Try to look at the positives rather than absorbing the negatives. There will always be positives. If you can’t find any, start with your loved ones, your animals, the roof over your head, food on the table. If you’re not happy in your job, change it. If you want to move abroad do it. If you don’t try you’ll never know, and wouldn’t you rather say you tried than spend a lifetime wondering?

Go for a walk in the park, watch a nice film, spend time with children or animals. Do something that makes you smile, push yourself to take that first step, and the next step won’t be so painful.

But never regret the darkness, it is our greatest teacher.

“There’s absolutely nothing wrong with hitting rock bottom, it’s a magical place to be. A place where we begin to connect with our true self, a place where we step outside of the ego, where we realise what we do and don’t want from life, the source of much creativity. A place where we align ourselves with purpose and gratitude. Through darkness comes light.” KJ x May 2016

A beautiful surprise…

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Lee with the children in India

You never really know what you’re going to find when you open your inbox. Among the surveys, spam and one-liners from dad, it’s always nice to hear from a client out of the blue.

I don’t remember everything I say during a reading, so it’s particularly nice when someone comes back and confirms that what you told them has since come true. I do remember sensing an extremely positive future for Lee when I did his reading, so it’s no surprise that he is doing so well.

Thank you for getting in touch.

Hi Kalie how are you? I hope you’re getting on ok and all is going well for you. Just wanted you to know your reading for Lee last was very accurate especially with the travelling.

He went to India beginning of January for three months volunteering, and when he comes back he has two weeks here then he starts a new job starting in Shrewsbury then could be placed in Cornwall or Norfolk. So everything is on the up for Lee very Proud of him. Just thought you would like to hear that I have enclosed a couple pictures if that’s ok. Thanks xx

A natural high

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When you think of getting high you tend to imagine a group of curious teenagers smoking joints in the park. I prefer the more natural approach.

At the risk of sounding like a complete fruit loop, which of course I can be at times, there is a way to achieve the same kind of high, all from connecting with the universe and understanding your true purpose.

The earth is currently going through a transitional period therefore we are all experiencing vast changes around us, some positive and some negative. Many people have been going through a hard time recently, including myself, but trust me everything will get better, I promise.

I’m not going to lie and pretend that I’m happy go lucky every minute of every day, but I do my best to stay positive as much as possible and keep spreading those waves of sunshine. After all, it feels so much better to be positive than negative, doesn’t it?

So what is a natural high? It’s the most amazing feeling you’ve ever encountered. It comes from a feeling of complete acceptance and gratitude, trusting and knowing that everything is just how it is meant to be, in this moment.

So how does one achieve this state of ecstasy? Excuse the pun. For me this feeling is usually triggered when I connect to spirit. Giving a message from a loved one that has passed truly is one of the most satisfying feelings you can experience, and I am blessed to be able to do so. I often attend my psychic development group feeling completely exhausted after a long day at work, not to mention the hour and a half journey home. But the minute someone says ‘yes, I can take that, I understood everything you just said’ I feel absolutely invigorated, on top of the world in fact.

So how do we regular folk achieve this natural high? I understand that the stresses of life make it hard to be positive and happy all the time, and if you’re still reading this then well done, you might just be ready to open your mind.

It all comes down to finding that inner peace and connecting with your higher self. Believe it or not, that nagging voice inside your head is not actually you. You are the silence behind the voice.

There are plenty of ways you can begin to enjoy pure happiness: I’ve outlined a few of these below to get you going.

Meditation – Forget all preconceived ideas you have of cross-legged hippies, mediation can be done however you feel comfortable. Sit up, lie down, meditate alone or in a group. Meditation is simply about finding that inner stillness. Close your eyes, relax and take slow deep breaths in and out. Be aware of your thoughts and let them go.

Gratitude – This is the very word I have tattooed on my arm. We spend so much time thinking about what we don’t have, try focussing on what you do have. Write a list of things you are grateful for, once you start you’ll be surprised about how much you have to be grateful for. I try to do this as often as possible.

Bond with nature – I’m not suggesting that you go hug a tree (not even I do that), but spending time in the great outdoors can do wonders for your state of mind. Find a quiet spot in the park or take a drive in the countryside, appreciate the beautiful sights that are all around us. And of course, If you do feel the urge to hug a tree, then be my guest.

Many clients that come to me are seeking more than just a reading, they’re looking for happiness. I am very pleased to be able to offer advice about life and to help them find that tiny bit of strength within. It’s very pleasing to see someone leave a reading feeling positive and uplifted during a very difficult period in their life.

If we each aim to inspire just one person, and that person inspires another, imagine the effect we can create.

Do whatever you can to feel connected to the universe, and once you find that natural high, never let it go…